Just pause….and breathe

Whether you have a negative credit score and feature prominently in the CRB listing, whether you don’t have a job and are unsure of where your next meal is coming from, whether you are buried in debt and see no way around it, please never give up hope.

Situations are temporary and can mess our minds up and make it seem like an endless pit of hopelessness. I choose to believe that nothing is permanent in this life, and hardships sharpen us and make us more humane.

Be selfish about your mental health, protect it like you would silver or gold. My grandmother taught me years ago that you can never please everyone, they will always have something negative to say about you. If you pay too much mind to all the chatter around you, life will pass you by slowly and one day all you will be left with are regrets for not taking more chances to be your true self.

Do not condone what you do not like or believe in, just to make other people happy. Speak your mind clearly and give your point of view soberly since we don’t have to all agree to be able to coexist with each other. Although most people say they like direct and honest opinions, very few ever really want to hear your truth. But as long as you express it respectfully and not in a condescending way, the true one’s will appreciate it.

I love deeply, admire openly and praise things that I love loudly, that is the only way I know how to be me. It may make some people uncomfortable and come out pretentious/ as boot licking to others, because we are not conditioned as humans to just be honest about appreciating life loudly even when we are drowning in a million other problems.

I choose to appreciate the beauty of life, good health, a great support system, amazing kids and a best friend to share my life with. We are here for a reason, and everything is a lesson.

Life is indeed very humbling, but we take the lessons and soldier on! I find it very hard to relate to people who have not been through some kind of struggle/ loss anymore, because that lesson cannot be taught in school. The kind of optimism that is found in motivational books alone is not as powerful as living through a tough situation and coming out of it whole. Scarred, but still whole.

In sharing pieces of my experiences and those of others who allow me to publish theirs, I hope we can create a consciousness beyond what we see superficially. That we can be kinder, more empathetic and less critical of each other.

Have an amazing week ahead, and always keep your head up. You won’t come of this life alive anyway, might as well enjoy the ride while at it…🥰🥰